10 Things Your Father Never Said

The other day I was having lunch in a local’s joint here in Steamboat called Azteca.  If your ever on vaca here in the boat…you have to check this place out!

As I was eating HE walked in.

I couldn’t believe it was HIM.  I have read all his books, he has been a mentor to me and he has significantly impacted the direction of my life.

So who is this HE  that I am talking about??

Mr. John Eldredge.  The wild man himself!!

In case you have never heard of John, I am sorry that you have been locked away for the past few years.

My friend that I was having lunch with is actually friends with John…so John and his wife Staci sat down and chatted for a while.

This was such a great moment for me, as I was able to thank him for the way that God had used him to impact me and Team Sprad.

So John has written a book called “Wild At Heart”, and in this book he uses the term “Father Wound.”

This is a wound that so many fathers inflict upon their kids.  This wound can come from neglect, absence, abuse, control, lack of blessing and lack of affirmation.

As your reading this, some of you are standing up on the chair screaming…yeah, that’s me!  My dad was never around, he loved worked more than me, he never told me he loved me and my dad abused me!!

We all have our father wounds because of what our dad’s did to us or said, but I also believe that we have father wounds because of what our dad’s never said.

10 Things Our Dad’s Never Said…

  • “I really blew it!  Will you forgive me for beating/disciplining you out of anger”
  • “I want you to know that you are a gift from God and I am so blessed to be your father”
  • “Here’s how you budget your money, balance a checkbook and save for retirement”
  • “That girl your about to take out on a date…remember that she is God’s daughter”
  • “Here is what God’s word says about how to be a man of character and integrity”
  • “God has a plan for your life and he has given you gifts that He will use to change the world”
  • “While you are at school today I want you to know that I will be praying for you”
  • “When your fighting with your mom…just remember that I am on her side”
  • ” I give you permission to let me know when I am scaring you”
  • “I trust you to make the right decision”

PARENTS…Will you reverse the curse?  Will you change history?

Don’t inflict the same father wound that was inflicted upon you!

Do you have a father wound?

What is 1 thing that you wish your father had told you?

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ChrisSprad
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Chris Spradlin (AKA Sprad) is passionate about Jesus, he doesn’t drink coffee, is bald, has a chinhawk, lives in Edmond, OK., loves to fly fish and snowboard. He has been married to his smoking hot wife Jodie for 18 years and they have 3 kiddos also known as Team Sprad. Chris if the founder of EpicParent.tv and has been in ministry for 20 years. He has served as a Pastor and Team Teacher with Craig Groeschel at LifeChurch.tv and currently serves on the Executive Team and a Team Teacher at the multisite NewHopeChurch.tv. You can find Chris on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram.

7 Comments on "10 Things Your Father Never Said"

  1. Joey Espinosa February 16, 2012 at 4:51 am - Reply

    This is great for me. I don’t say these things nearly enough to my own 3 kids.

    Plus, I work in an area in which about 80% of the kids are in single parent households (almost always mom). These are things that I need to say to kids. And we need dozens of mentors to say these things to kids here.

  2. Kasey February 16, 2012 at 8:26 am - Reply

    I’m jealous. I went through WatH 3 years ago with a group of 6 other guys, and we are still meeting and sharpening each other. We are also going through Men’s Frat content which is similar and very powerful.

  3. Travis February 16, 2012 at 12:50 pm - Reply

    I need to make it a point to do these things continuously as my boys grow up! One thing that I wish I would have heard/hear more often is ” I am proud of you.” Something about that small phrase, no matter what the circumstances, is very uplifting to me.

  4. Rebecca Baggett February 16, 2012 at 2:09 pm - Reply

    I was blessed in my life to get a “second” father who did all these things for me and my 5 other siblings. I think this is something Mom’s need to do also.
    Tomorrow when I leave for work I will remind my son I am praying for him through the day.
    Thank you for always sharing amazing things, I am inspired!

  5. Dona February 16, 2012 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    “I love you.” I never remember my father saying it to me unless I said it first. I didn’t start that until the 6th grade when I went to a friend’s house and heard them saying it. It left a hole in me that sin tried to fill but through the grace of God I discovered that only God can.

  6. Leah February 16, 2012 at 4:01 pm - Reply

    …that he was sorry.

  7. Uncle Pat February 17, 2012 at 7:43 am - Reply

    Sitting here and looked on the shelf next to my desk…a volume of that book is right there. Loved it! Wish it had been out before my kids were grown & gone, but I sure have a good bunch of grandkids to work with.
    Thanks for the reminders…

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