I have a confession to make.
Just to get you to read this post.
If I could GURANTEE that your kids will stop talking back, I would be on Dr. Phil tomorrow and would be a millionaire next month, with box seats to Texas Longhorns football games and hair plugs to cure my baldness. (JK…bald is the new sexy)
Here are 5 conversations you need to have with your kiddos if they are struggling with the back talking thing…
- The HONOR Conversation: You should talk to your kids about honor. I believe we are commanded to honor God, teachers, coaches, bosses, aunts, uncles, the President, Miami Heat fans and parents. However…you can’t have this conversation one time and expect it to sink in and miraculously change your son!!?! You must have the HONOR conversation over, and over, and over, and over and over.
- The WHY Conversation: Have you ever thought of simply asking your kids WHY they back talk? Seriously. So much of our parenting challenges can be handled through simple conversations. Ask them WHY. WHY they dishonor you. WHY they use “that” tone of voice. WHY they talk down to you. We gotta ask real, heartfelt questions and just listen.
- The YOU’RE DESTROYING MY HEART Conversation: Your kids need to know that you’re not always a rock. You have feelings, emotions and every time that your son disrespects you, he needs to know that he is hurting and destroying your heart.
- The YOU WILL NOT TREAT ME THIS WAY Conversation: Are you a weak, spineless, doormat parent? Do your kids run over you? If so, it’s time for you to step into your God given authority and get your balls back!! (Yes, I just said that) Look your kids in the eyes and with love, passion and grace let them know that you are no longer a doormat and they WILL NOT treat you this way ever again.
- The SLAP YOUR FACE Conversation: When I was 15 I was sassin, talking back and giving my mom the what for. She didn’t reason, love, listen and teach me about honor. She simply slapped the living crap out of my face and said never talk to me like that again. And…I never did. Not telling YOU to do this, but a lil old skool parenting might help the problem.
Do your kids talk back? Do you struggle with this? Please share your story…