I don’t pretend to be a great source of wisdom on this subject of discipline, nor do I pretend to know what is best for you and your family, but here are a few things that I hope you will take into consideration when disciplining your children…
If you missed Part 1 of “Are You Confused About Spanking”, you can catch it HERE…
- FEAR BASED PARENTING IS CHILD ABUSE: Parents all over the world use “fear” (knowingly or unknowingly) as a tool to keep their kids in line. Are you kids afraid to make a mistake? Are your kids afraid to have friends sleep over? Are your kids afraid to bring their report card home? Are your kids afraid to speak their mind? Do your kids (and others for that matter) walk on egg shells around you? If so, you are abusing your kids and you need to seek help immediately. Please contact me and i would love to help you walk through this area of your life.
- TALK TO YOUR KIDS: The joke around Team Sprad’s home is don’t let dad discipline us, he talks way too much! Go to mom, she just gets it over with. Here is the process I typically use when disciplining my kiddos… 1) listen to their heart 2) give them a chance to explain 3) speak truth and correct wrong thinking 4) share “how” you will discipline them 5) love and pray with them
- BE UNITED: This is for married parents or divorced parents, you have to present a united front. Please help you kids understand that mom and dad are in complete agreement. I understand this may be very difficult for you. If you need some help or guidance in this area please feel free to contact me.
- JOIN A TEAM: Many behavioral problems come because kids are not socially connected or they are not active. I encourage parents to make sure that your kids are active. My boys and I are training to run a 10k together, this creates a goal for them as well as keeps them active and moving. Help him find a sense of belonging through a sports team or youth group.
- HOLD A FAMILY MEETING: I love Rev. Run’s (the front man from RUN DMC’s book called, “Take Back The Family”. He holds a weekly family meeting where they talk about God stuff, family goals, problems and achievements. The family meetings are also a consistent time and space where everyone is together, they eat together and just share life. These meetings are a great place to pro-actively keep the family on track. I encourage all families to start having family meetings this week (they better be fun) and you will see your discipline problems slowly fade away.
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