HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR KIDS?
time out – spanking – nose in the corner – grounding – soap in the mouth - take the car keys – take away the IPod, PSP, Xbox & cell phone – make your kids watch Tell tubby re-runs
My oldest son, Coletrain, went through a period a while back where his attitude was awful, he was lazy, defiant, sassy, mean, argumentative, aggravating…would you like me to go on?
I was about to pull my hair out (as if I have any to pull out)! I tried every form of discipline that you can imagine, but nothing seemed to work! How did I parent through this? IT WAS NOT GOOD! I was all over him; I was demanding, mean, visibly frustrated and sharp tongued. I had hit the proverbial ‘parenting wall”! So after thinking, praying and hitting my head against the wall I decided to try something weird, strange, counter cultural and IRRATIONAL! I chose to radically and IRRATIONALLY SERVE him. I went above and beyond!
Over time this transformed our relationship! Cole was no longer lazy; he wanted to serve the family (that’s a miracle in itself). He became a kid that walked in humility, respect, kindness and love…but he still loves to aggravate (he gets that from his dad). I was transformed as a Father. I eagerly woke up each day looking for ways to serve Cole.
My kids still get disciplined, I have not done away with it…but when it is appropriate BE AN IRRATIONAL PARENT and choose serving over discipline!
IDEAS ON SERVING YOUR KIDDOS...
- Help them with chores, or better yet…do their chores for them and still pay them
- Ask them if you can have 5 of their friends spend the night
- Cook their favorite meal
- Let them skip school and take them snowboarding, to a movie, out to eat, you get the idea…
- Start the day with “how can I help you or what can I do for you today”
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