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Jodie and I have a couple of great friends that have been diagnosed with a life threatening form of cancer. I have written about these ladies in previous post’s, but today I am writing about one of our friends young daughters.
Her name is Alison.
Alison is an amazing, beautiful and strong young lady. And the reason for today’s post is because some freakin idiot tried to steal her beauty and strength last week.
So here’s the story.
Last week someone (we don’t know who just yet) started a fake Instagram account making fun of Alision.
The account name was…
Alison is fat and ugly
Can I just stop a second to say that I freaking hate bullying. Bullying makes my stomach churn. Bullying is destructive. Bullying destroys lives. Bullying erodes confidence. Bullying flat out sucks!!!
So Alison found out about this at school one day and her entire world came crashing down.
Alison was mad, upset, broken, hurt, angry…can you imagine if this happened to one of your kiddos?
Alison tried to hide this from her mom because she didn’t want her mom to deal with this pain on top of the cancer she is battling. So Alison carried this burden alone for a few days until her mom eventually found out.
As soon as I heard about this whole ordeal, I decided to act!
I decided to track down the bully and pull his/her fingernails out with a pair of pliers. (great EpicParent move…I know) but I sure did think about it.
So instead of violence I decided to write a post about the whole episode. I called Alison and her family and asked if I could share the story. I was pretty hesitant because of the personal nature of the story, but Alison told me to write it! She said that if her story will help others and cause people to revolt against bullying then she wanted it to go public.
So there you go!
Most bullying happens when adults aren’t around, such as in between classes, at lunch or recess, after school, and online. Still, bullying rarely takes place without an audience – kids are around to see bullying 85 percent of the time. But even though they see it, kids usually don’t try to stop bullying, and may even be unknowingly encouraging it.
“Two out of three kids want to help when they see bullying, and helping out is one of the most effective ways to stop bullying and prevent it from happening again. When friends help out, 57 percent of the time bullying stops in 10 seconds ” (Hawkins, Pepler, and Craig, Social Development, 2001).
So here are 5 things you should teach your kiddos about bullying…
- Walk away. This shows bullies that their behavior is not funny or okay.
- Speak up. Tell bullies that what they are doing is wrong. By saying, “that’s not funny, let’s get out of here” or something similar, kids can stand up for each other. This may also give other bystanders the confidence to speak up or walk away.
- Be a friend. Sometimes kids get picked on because they don’t have any friends or anyone to stand up for them. When kids befriend someone being bullied, bullies are less likely to pick on them. Friendship can also give children the support and the confidence to stand up for themselves.
- Ask others to help. When more kids stand up to bullies, the bullies will be more likely to realize their actions are not okay.
- Get an adult. Sometime kids who are bullied are scared to ask an adult for help because they think it will make the bullying worse. Kids can help by telling an adult what is happening, or going to speak to an adult with kids being bullied.
I grabbed most of today’s content from the National Crime Prevention Council. You can read the entire article HERE if you would like.
SO WOULD YOU DO ME A HUGE FAVOR…Leave a comment here loving on and encouraging Alison and I’ll make sure she reads it! Spread the word and have your friends leave comments as well.