My oldest son is 13 years old and in just a few short months he will turn the big 14! I can’t believe that I will be the father of a semi-hairy legged, hormone ragin, stinky young man!! What did I ever do to deserve this!!?!
I knew this day was coming, so over the past few years I have done my very best to impart Jesus, work ethic, manners, drive, morality, study habits, discipline, hygiene, athletics, honesty, compassion, respect, honor, sweet dance moves (yah…not so much), discernment and judgement deep into his soul.
I have worked hard to teach him how to treat ladies, come to the defense of the defenseless, harness his strength with his siblings and to treat his mom with respect and honor.
As I think of all the wisdom that I have deposited into my son, I have come to the realization that I am a stud father! Yep, that’s right! I deserve one of those cheesy father of the year t-shirts.
Yeah, not so much.
The reason I say that is because in the midst of all the sermons, teaching and power point lessons I realized that I am becoming more and more disconnected from his heart. I am connected to his head. I have imparted wisdom to his brain…but I am loosing his heart.
So today dad tried something different. I decided to pick him up from school and head straight to the basketball court and we played hoops for about an hour. And it was during our game that it hit me!!
It hit me that my countless hours of sermons connected me to his head but one hour of fun (non instruction, education related time) re-connected me to his heart.
Today reminded me that my son needs my TIME more than he does my INSTRUCTION! Today reminded me that my son needs my LOVE more than he needs my LESSONS. Today reminded me that my son needs my HEART more than he needs my GUIDANCE.
So parents, it’s time to go back to the fundamentals of parenting! Spend time, lots of time, quantity time as well as quality time with your kids. And when you think you have spent enough time…it’s time to spend some more time.
Do you struggle with spending time with your kids? Would love to hear your story.
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